“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart”
― Helen Keller
We are who we are because we have emotions, and we are getting better and better as we learn to manage them, that is why we are human! And as humans, we experience a wide range of emotions. Emotions include feelings of happiness, love, and hate, fear, rage, and misery, joy and sorrow, helplessness, and everything else we feel as a result of our surroundings or the people we are with.
We are social beings and how best define ourselves is determined by how well we handle our emotions and feelings. Had there been no check or control over our emotions, the world would be in utter chaos and turmoil, and everyone would be at each other’s throats, trying to kill each other, bringing the human species to the level of animals. Therefore, managing our emotions is vital for us to achieve overall wellbeing and balance in the world, in order to survive, progress, and build a peaceful, and beautiful world for us and for generations to come.
The Importance of Managing Emotions
Emotional Management abilities refer to the capacity to control one’s own emotions and managing emotional reactions means choosing how and when to express the emotions we feel. People who manage their emotions well understand that it is beneficial to express their emotions, but it is important to know how and when to do so. It is also defined as the ability to recognize, acknowledge, and successfully control feelings in oneself and others. Emotions assist us in communicating with others, such as when we are unhappy and require support and help. They also can assist us in arriving at a decision in crucial circumstances.
Understanding and managing our emotions is one of the most essential qualities and one of the most fundamental abilities we can have. People who are good at detecting how one feels and then calming down or changing one’s behavior are more likely to be successful in life, have healthy relationships, and deal effectively with adversity. Being open to one’s own ideas and feelings isn’t enough for developing emotional management skills. We also need complete control over the thoughts and feelings that arise when our values are challenged by the acts of another person or an event. This is crucial because it is only through a shift in our thoughts and feelings that we all can adjust our emotions and behavior and avoid a reactive outburst.
Emotions play an important role in shaping our future behaviors apart from being good motivators of our future course of action. It influences our thoughts, prepares our bodies for instant action, and maybe felt. Many of us attempt to feel satisfied, joyous, proud, or triumphant in our successes and achievements.
Accepting and validating all emotions improves self-awareness and helps them overcoming of negative ideas. Many of us try to protect ourselves from negative emotions such as guilt, worry, sadness, despair, disgust, fear, and loneliness because they are unpleasant and we wish we weren’t experiencing them. But ignoring or suppressing emotions will just postpone the situation, causing it to worsen or manifest in the body as aches, pains, or diseases.
It becomes imperative to maintain emotional stability. When several emotional problems emerge at the same time, our emotions absorb our attention and energy, making it difficult to change our approach or attitude. We become captivated by our disempowering feelings and fall into victim mode. We become so accustomed to being unhappy that we begin to believe we have no other option. This negative emotion must be avoided at any cost. It is essential that we sustain our emotional states rather than becoming dominated by them. If we are anxious, we should engage in some activities to help us unwind and relax. If lonely, make some effort to connect with others. If depressed, then one should engage in some form of activity to lift up sagging spirits.
Stop, drop, and process are excellent methods for strengthening emotion control and management skills:
This is the most difficult of the three steps since it requires a great deal of willpower. To stop right there and contemplate the next time emotions are strong that one feels hijacked by them and have a strong impulse to do something one may later regret. Begin by looking for signs, as well as the thoughts and feelings that have exacerbated the action.
As we’ve completed the most challenging portion, doing something that will help us relax is most important and refreshing, as we may never be able to think clearly and sensibly unless we reduce the intensity of our emotions.
In this third step, we will be in a better position to understand everything and respond appropriately. First and foremost, is identifying the feelings we’re experiencing where it is advisable to update our emotions-vocabulary and after we’ve identified exactly what we’re experiencing, consider where it came from and why we’re feeling that way. The answers to both of these questions, then, will be easier to make a more informed decision about the best course of action, keeping our ultimate goals and personal beliefs in mind.
Emotions have an impact on our organizational life. We can better manage our emotions if we can better understand them. We might get overburdened by emotional labor, but sometimes it’s okay. Understanding, expressing, and coping with our emotions can be tough, yet, by taking the time to think about them, we have already begun to achieve better control and understanding of them.
We also have to understand apart from encouraging and comprehending our emotions, coping up with emotions isn’t merely a destination to which we arrive and leave. It’s a never-ending path that becomes easier with time.